đź’ˇ The Gift of Feedback: Growing & Blooming Together
By Dr. Autumn Flick
Feedback. Just the word can make some of us brace ourselves. Whether it’s a suggestion from a supervisor, a nudge from a colleague, or even a gentle comment from a friend, we all know that feedback, especially the hard kind, can stir up big feelings.
But here’s the truth: feedback is a gift—an invitation to grow, connect, and show up even better for the people who count on us.
đź’¬ Why Feedback Feels So Big
When we care deeply about our work, our learners, or our teams, feedback can feel personal. That’s because it matters. It’s tied to our values, our purpose, and our sense of responsibility.
And at Orchid, we know what's at stake. Our kids with autism are counting on us. Our team members are counting on us. Every piece of feedback is a chance to sharpen our skills and deepen our impact.
🎯 What Feedback Really Does
Let’s reframe it.
Feedback helps us:
Reflect and reset goals
See blind spots we might miss
Improve how we support each other and our learners
Reinforce that growth is a shared journey, not a solo act
🧠Emotional Regulation: Give Yourself a Soft Landing
It’s okay to feel activated by feedback. That’s your nervous system doing its job. Here’s how to give yourself space to process:
Take a break. Step away and breathe. Go for a walk, or just sit in quiet for a few minutes.
Let your body reset. Stretch, shake it off, or sip something warm.
Comfort yourself. Watch a favorite show, listen to your go-to playlist, eat a favorite snack, or cuddle with your dog. It’s okay to treat yourself with kindness.
Don’t judge your feelings. Feeling embarrassed, hurt, or defensive doesn’t mean you’re wrong—it means you’re human.
You don’t need to bounce back instantly. What matters is that you do come back—with renewed clarity and readiness to grow.
🙌 Tips for Taking Feedback Well
Here are a few things we teach and live by:
Pause before reacting. Take a deep breath. Feedback is information, not judgment.
Say thank you. It’s a sign of maturity—and it sets the tone for mutual respect.
Avoid explanations (in the moment). You’ll have time to reflect and follow up if needed.
Remember why it matters. It's about being better for the people who rely on us.
đź’ˇ Real Talk: What Others Have Learned
"I try to see feedback as a way to grow—not a list of flaws." – Haley
"In grad school, I realized I’m still learning. I want my students to feel the same freedom to make mistakes."– Fisher
"It’s reassuring to hear feedback from someone who’s walked this path before me." – James
"Even when it’s hard, I remind myself: I crave this. I want to know how to be the best version of myself." – Jessie
đź’– One Last Thought
It’s okay if you need a moment after hearing tough feedback. It’s okay if it stings. But what’s not okay? Giving up on yourself. Because this work matters, and so do you.
Let’s keep showing up—messy, human, and ready to grow.
Our kids are watching. Our teammates are watching. And we are building something beautiful, together.
Originally published as “The Gift of Feedback” by Dr. Autumn Flick (Formerly “Eyre”) in the Students’ Corner feature for the Council for Exceptional Children’s Division on Autism and Developmental Disabilities Express Newsletter. Adapted and updated for the Orchid Academy community.
